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Breaking up is hard to do. And it seems like people rarely offer the right amount of sympathy towards someone who is going through a recent split. One day you have your life all planned out with this person, and the very next day you're left alone with no road map or instructions. It's not an easy place to be.
After a breakup, it takes time to bring your ex down from that pedestal you created in your mind, in order to see the situation from a healthy and realistic perspective. In other words: you need time to heal.
But healing requires vulnerability. And who wants to be in that position, publicly nonetheless? It almost feels shameful. Instead of working it out with ourselves, we do our best to numb ourselves in any way possible.