Five Dating Tips for Guys From a Miami Mixologist

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Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Have a question for Nikki? Email it to cultist@miaminewtimes.com.

John Verrochi has experienced hundreds of first dates, No, he's not the Don Juan of the South. But close: he's a mixologist at the Shore Club.

Seriously, who better to ask for dating advice than someone with a front row seat at one of the swankiest nightlife spots in town? After years of patrolling lounges, dives, clubs, and restaurant bars throughout the East Coast -- from Boston and New York to Miami -- he's come to believe that some things are absolute when it comes to courting a lady.

And while I usually dish out tips for the ladies, these awesomely insightful pointers are geared towards the fellas. So don't say we never helped you out.

1. Be Confident

"Guys, number one, be confident! A little nervousness is ok, but women (or anyone for that matter) do not respond positively to weakness. If you're not sure of yourself, why should she be?"

2. Don't Play the Numbers Game

"Go for the one (or, okay, two maximum) woman that really catches your eye on a given night. Because if she's noticed you, she's also noticed your (lack of) game before you got to her. Quality, not quantity, fellas."

3. Don't Overdo the First Date

"While you may be head over heels with her, and taking her to Zuma or Prime 112 for your first date seems like the reasonable step, it sets a pretty high bar for any subsequent affairs. If you happen to be someone of means, then by all means take her out for any type of extravagance you can afford. For the non-jet set, however, a sexy wine or cocktail bar, an appetizer, and some good conversation will do you just as well. Also, stay away from clubs on a first date. There are too many distractions and it's too loud to hear anything. But it is a great place to ditch a bad date."

4. Pay Attention

"When you're out on a date, pay attention and listen to her. Go somewhere lively, but not slammed. Don't gawk at the busty waitress or bartender. Unless you have legendary game, and can work a threesome, you'll be going home alone."

5. Learn to cook

"Half the battle of dating is getting her back to your place. If you can prepare a nice dinner and accompany it with some wine, you've accomplished the very important things: you have brought her home, you've loosened things up with a little alcohol, and most importantly, you've showed her some passion and creativity. You're in! You can only screw it up from here."

Soon, Nikki Novo will answer your questions about love in Miami. Need advice? Send your troubles to cultist@miaminewtimes.com.

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