Sex & Gender

Am I Gay 'Cause My Girlfriend Touched My Butt?

Sex, love, relationship advice from a professional dominatrix. Got questions, drop an e-mail to [email protected], you naughty boys and girls. Read more about Mistress Lera at Notes From a Miami Dominatrix.

My girlfriend was giving me a blow job the other day and she stuck her finger up my butt. It sent shivers up my spine and gave me butterflies in my stomach. I've never felt anything so awesome in my life. I had the best orgasm ever. I enjoyed it so much that I cannot stop thinking about it. Does that make me gay?

Confused Boy

My Dear Confused Boy,

Did you fantasize about some sexy, well-hung stud in skimpy leather shorts while your girlfriend fingered your butt hole? If not, then you're not gay. Maybe English, but definitely not a homosexual. Working as a dominatrix, I have had many straight men crawl to me on their hands and knees, begging to get fucked up the ass by my nine-inch strap-on. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I am a big advocate of anal play for males, both gay and straight. Anal stimulation not only feels great, it can also be beneficial to a man's health if practiced properly.

When your girlfriend stuck her finger up your ass, she hit that walnut-sized bundle of joy known as the prostate gland. It's located between the bladder and the penis. It secretes fluids that nourish and protect the sperm. And prostate massage, referred to in my circles as "milking," has its therapeutic benefits. Studies have shown that men who climax (by masturbation or milking) more than five times a week actually lessen their chance of suffering from illnesses such as inflammation of the prostate gland and even prostate cancer. Not to mention, it's a great way to relax.

Here are a few tips for keeping your anal play fun and safe: Lie down on your back or get in the doggy-style position. Spread your legs and take a deep breath. If your lover has long nails, she should put small cotton balls on them and wear latex gloves (just make sure you're not allergic). Wearing latex gloves is not only hygienic, but with the right amount of lubrication, will allow your partner to slip her finger inside you with ease. Just remind her to be slow and gentle. Once she's inside you, have her stimulate your prostate in a come-hither motion. The feeling will be so intense you should neigh, squeal, and snort like a horny stallion.

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Lera Gavin