My Man is a Terrible Lover. What Should I Do?

You know Miami stripper Skrawberry for her rap skills, her political commentary,

and of course, her sexy moves on the pole. Now, you'll also know her

for her sound advice. In this weekly column, Skraw responds to readers'

questions about life, love, and beyond. Got a question for Skraw? Hit

her up at skrawberry@miaminewtimes.com.

Dear Skrawberry,

I've been dating this dude for a little over four months, and we've decided to make it official. When we first started dating, he told me that he doesn't give head but likes to receive it. He's never tried it and he's quite disgusted by it. I'm thinking, "Yeah right, I've heard that before." I didn't think it would be that big of a problem until we finally had sex for the first time. I was very disappointed!

He don't give head and he's not blessed down there, but I like him a lot. I don't wanna just leave him like that, but a girl has needs! I'm trying to avoid cheating on him. So, what do I do?

Yours truly,

As we all know, sex plays a major role in any relationship. If you are not sexually satisfied, especially after four months, get out while it's still early!

If you do decide to stay with him, go another route. Is your guy open to try something new? Don't be afraid to discuss you guys' sex status, and suggest he use a penis pump. Go in the store and pick one out together. And while you're there, pick up a few toys of your own that he'd like to use on you.

Most guys do come with the "I don't give head" lie -- only because they don't want to be asked for it right away. If you feel some kind of way about that, don't perform on him unless you getting it in return -- especially since he isn't already satisfying you in any other sexual way. How dare he come to you with the "no head rule," but he ain't even makin' up for it? You shouldn't even allow him to raise his voice at you!

If he don't want to experiment, you two should just be friends; no sex involved. Don't stay around because you don't want to hurt his feelings; that's just what we as women tell men not to do to us. Tell him. He need to tighten up or keep it movin'!

If you stay, you are only gonna be tempted to cheat, and that is never a good thing. And if you stay, you are only gonna find yourself resenting that man because he is not satisfying you. How much time did you waste in the first place, kickin' it with this guy before you had sex, only to find out that he wasn't worth it? Get out while you still have no strings attached.

I mention this all the time on my Twitter feed: How angry does it make you while you're down, givin' him head, while his penis is lost somewhere in your mouth, and you look up at him and he have the audacity to say to you, "Damn, baby, you can take all that dick"?! How aggravating is that? It's like you want to respond, "Boy, find somebody else to play with this lil'-ass shit."

If he's open to trying penis enlargement toys (and they do, in fact, work), give him a chance. If not, and the sex is just non-negotiable, run away very fast! Conversation can't give you a good nutt!


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