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My Man Wants a Threesome, What Should I Do?

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You know Miami stripper Skrawberry for her rap skills, her political commentary,

and of course, her sexy moves on the pole. Now, you'll also know her

for her sound advice. In this weekly column, Skraw responds to readers'

questions about life, love, and beyond. Got a question for Skraw? Hit

her up at skrawberry@miaminewtimes.com.


Hey Skrawberry,

My dude of five years came outta nowhere last year wanting a threesome. I didn't know whether to be offended or respect him for asking me. So I stayed positive and went along with it, trying to find a third chick, but because I'm not attracted to females it's very hard. Now, my man gets an attitude every time we go out and we don't bring nobody home. How do I give my man what he wants if I'm not into it?

He says he wants to have a threesome just one time, but I think he's lying, cuz when we go to swinger parties he doesn't even participate. He just throws me out there, and then I feel bamboozled, 'cause he'll say it didn't count cause he wants it to be us and another girl. But yet we keep going to these parties where everyone wants to play with me cause they are fascinated with my looks. So how can I get another girl so we can get this shit over with? Or how do I change his mind about the whole thing?

3SomeFinder

Baby, your man is bored, and him asking for a threesome is a cover up from telling you the truth.

First off, if you're not comfortable and/or into it and he knows it, he's disrespecting you by constantly telling you or even forcing you to have a threesome.

On the other hand, if you want to give him what's he's asking for, I'd suggest you go far away from home and find a random girl from the club that neither of you would ever come in contact with again. (Use protection; that's very important.) That way you won't have any strings attached, and she will have no way of doubling back on your man!

But if that's not something you are into, talk to your man and let him know. He should respect your wishes if y'all been together that long. Just find other ways to spice up your sex life! Bing toys into the bedroom. Do random sex acts that you both can enjoy! And if that's not enough for him, then you need to find another man who respectful to you and your needs as well as his. Maybe you are not enough woman for the man you are with now and you need to move on!

Sincerely,
Skrawberry

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