Magic City Kitty: He's Boring My Pants On

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Hello, Kitty: I'm 28 years old and have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for close to three years. We've yet to shack up but have definitely been talking about marriage a lot lately. I would describe my feelings toward him as "love." But I'd also call them "bored." I'm guessing this is normal, but I don't see how I can consider a lifetime with this guy when things between us are already so extremely far from exciting. We used to get it on from the bedroom to the kitchen. Now we seem to be just going through the motions and I'm losing my mind! Truth is, I have some ideas on how we can spice up our love life. But I'm afraid to approach him. He might think I've been with someone else. How can I introduce a breath of fresh air without making him think I'm trying to change "us" or that somehow I've changed through some outside lovin'?

Frethus Pussee

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