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Hello, Kitty: I’m gay and my boyfriend wants to add another man into our sex play. While I’m not totally against the idea of a threesome, I can’t help but feel he’s suggesting it because I’m not enough for him. We’ve been a couple for six years, living together for five, and I admit things have cooled down a bit in the bedroom in the past year or so. But I thought it was mutual and temporary! Now, while the idea of a new sexual adventure is intriguing, I’m worried about what it means. He’s never mentioned I’m not satisfying him, so should I assume it’s just the horndog in him that wants another guy in our bed?
Joe Blow Mo
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Hey, Joe: First of all, this threesome sounds like a lot of meat. Second, his discussion with you about his desire to be with another guy and you is a good thing. Sure, there might be some underlying reason he wants to be with another man, and it might have something to do with the recent lack of heat in your bedroom. But his newfound desire might also have everything to do with wanting something new for his penis. Monogamy is a weird thing, embraced and expected by some and totally unrealistic to others. If your issue is that you want to keep things between you and your bf exclusive, that’s one thing. But since you don’t seem to be appalled by the idea of welcoming another man into your bed, I say have a convo with your guy about the whys and then move comfortably into the hows and whos. You’ve been together for six years, and I can’t imagine you two getting that far without being able to communicate. So stop worrying and get to asking: How is he feeling? Is he particularly horny? What does he hope to come out of this? And don’t take it personally if he says your cock isn’t up to snuff. It happens to the best of us, er, y’all. Meow.
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