Update: Goldfarb says that she is the victim in the case and that the men chased her down the street. "I was literally afraid one would hit me running up behind me," she says. Goldfarb says she has gay friends and is not a homophobe, but does not regret using the slur. "There's a difference between a human being who is gay and some drama queen out there acting like a faggot. The drama was so ridiculous," she says.
The video opens in a Coconut Grove hair salon's reception area, where a camera man barges in and announces, "This woman called us a faggot and threatened to shoot us." The woman quickly confirms the story. "I did," she says. "You jumped out of a car right in front of me; you could have ran me over."
Before the video is done, she calls the man who's filming, actor and director Victor Lirio, and his partner a "fat-ass faggot" twice more. Soon, Miami Police officers arrive and — according to Lirio — do little to investigate the threat.
"Officers Perez and Cabeza did not seriously take our complaint of being threatened," Lirio writes in the description of his video. "In the wake of Orlando, this is even more disturbing."
An MPD spokesperson declined to discuss the case. The woman, identified in a police report as 56-year-old Nancy Goldfarb, didn't immediately respond to New Times' request for comment. But Patrick Garelle, the hairdresser who owns the salon where the argument broke out, says the backstory is more complicated than Lirio spells out in the video.
"The police told us the building has video out front and these two men looked like they were chasing this woman," Garelle says.
This much is clear: The altercation began Wednesday afternoon outside Garelle's salon on Commodore Plaza. Here's Lirio's detailed description of what he says happened next:
It was 1:54PM. Getting off a Lyft ride on the not-so-busy Commodore Plaza in Coconut Grove, the driver temporarily stopped — to allow us to get out — parallel to the row of vehicles parked on the curb. We opened the door. As we got out, we were caught offguard by a woman — who was not on the sidewalk and who was approximately a couple of feet away—aggressively scoff, “That was rude!” Confused, we inquired what it was that offended her. She responded, “Your door could have hit me!” To which, I replied, “this is a street, not a sidewalk.” She walked away dismissing us and calling us, “Losers.”
I replied, “That’s a creative insult.”
She stopped, turned, and said, “You want creative? You’re a fat ass faggot!”
Stunned, I replied, “What?”
She repeated, “you’re a fat ass faggot.”
Walking across, I implored: “Kindness, woman. Kindness, please.”
She stopped, looked at me directly in the eyes, and screamed for the third time, “Fat. Ass. Faggot.”
At this point, I had lost it. I followed her to ask why she would say such a thing. I called her the “B” word for her hateful, homophobic speech.
She turned around and said, “This is Florida. I have a gun. I can f*cking shoot you.”
She proceeded to reach down to her purse, raise it as if she was pointing the gun at me. I replied, “Go ahead. Shoot me.” She turned around and proceeded to enter the Patrick Garelle Salon.
Lirio followed her into the salon and confronted her, captured in the video embedded at the top of this post. Eventually, the police were called, and Lirio filmed that encounter as well:
Lirio alleges the cops didn't take the threat seriously because the woman is white and well-off.
"It was quite apparent that socioeconomic profiling had occurred," he writes. "Her perceived wealth and privilege despite her criminal actions spared her (she is a White woman in an upscale salon)."
But Garelle says the videos might not tell the whole story. Although he stresses that he didn't see the initial altercation, which took place on the street, he says police told him the men had been aggressive in confronting his client.
"They had the proof from this video outside, and I don't know for sure what it showed, but I know the woman is not in trouble," he says. "The video apparently shows them harassing this woman."
An incident report provided by MPD doesn't include any mention of surveillance video outside the building. When officers asked Goldfarb (who is not the prominent Miami realtor by the same name, whom New Times has spoken with) if she had a gun, she said no but told the cops she had made the threat to Lirio because she "was nervous they were going to do something" to her. Police searched her purse and confirmed there was no weapon.
Garelle says that regardless of who was initially at fault, he was queasy watching the aftermath.
"If someone, one of my clients, attacked someone just because of their private life, I would be very upset about it. But this seems to be not the case," he says. "I believe people should be correct with each other and not use bad words like this."
Update: Goldfarb, in an interview with New Times, says that the video doesn't show the full story and that she was threatened by the men after a confrontation in the street.
She says she was crossing the street when the Uber vehicle carrying the men nearly hit her. When she reacted angrily, she says, the men laughed at her.
"If I'm coming out of that car, I'd say, 'Jeez, I'm sorry, didn't see you,' or 'that was my Uber driver; it wasn't us,'" she says. "But they get out and start laughing in my face."
That's when she says she dropped the gay slur and then men began aggressively following her. She says she had no choice but to pretend to have a weapon.
"As a woman, I said to myself, 'I'm going to stick my hand in my purse and say I have a weapon,'" she says.
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Goldfarb says that Lirio has overinflated the situation and that he was the one who escalated the fight. She adds she was offended he brought up the Orlando massacre.
"They're screaming about 'Orlando, Orlando,' but I have family there. And I'm Puerto Rican myself," she says.
She says the video doesn't offer a fair picture of what actually happened.
"What gives them the right to call me an old bitch?" she says. "But if I respond, I'm on video and on Twitter. That's just, to me, an injustice."