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For the past several months I’ve been feeling unrequited love towards a woman that I’ve been good friends with for some time. Despite both of us constantly trying to repair our friendship, I keep slipping off of the wagon and falling for her again.
I suspect that the reason why I keep failing is because I am a sub, and I frequently fantasize about women who “mistreat” or “ignore” me. I’m in a situation where I’m in love with a girl who doesn’t love me back, but the fact that she doesn’t love me back is why I’m in love with her!
How should a sub overcome sensations of unrequited love when the concept of unrequited love is the problem to begin with?
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Charlie
Dear Charlie,
You’re an idiot. Being submissive has nothing to do with your desires to be with your female best friend. It is in our human nature to want something that we cannot have.
It is stupid and illogical for you to want her. What’s the point of loving someone who doesn’t love you back? Snap out of it if you want to stay sane and move the fuck on or one day she will just cut you loose even as a friend.
You said you cherish your platonic relationship with her more than anything, so just resist your urges.
I know it may be hard, but find somebody who would love you, or if you’re that much into tease and denial and degradation, see a professional dominatrix. Learn how to compartmentalize your personal life and S&M.
If you want to salvage your friendship, love your friend from the distance. She’s not into you, so keep your feelings to yourself. Jerk off to her picture once in a while and you’ll be fine.
