Sex & Gender

Skrawberry's Guide to Love, Loss, and Proper Spelling

You know Miami stripper Skrawberry for her rap skills, her political commentary, and of course, her sexy moves on the pole. Now, you'll also know her for her sound advice. In this weekly column, Skraw responds to readers' questions about life, love, and beyond. Got a question for Skraw? Hit her up at [email protected].


How do I let go emotionally of a man? He's the only man I ever loved. BAD. Perfect for me.

I lost him cuz of my medalin, stalkin' ex -- he couldn't let go, and my new man cuddent take no more of the drama. I don't blame him -- I wooda been out, too. We both are humble. So he pushed me away -- HARD -- and put some hope in the air like"not now."

But I want him now. He could say no wrong about me. My pillow be filled with tears at times, and I think about him every morning, first thing on my mind. I been tryin' to do my thing, but it makes it worse because these other men can't eat pussy, can't f*ck, can't make love. They ain't real -- they just LAME, and it makes me miss him more.

I'm determined to do me. I can really enjoy my freedom, but I wanna feel happy again too. Plus I think about looking him up in the future. Only time will tell -- but wood you?

Hung Up


OK here it is: You shouldn't be lookin' to love anybody spelling the way you are! You need to be somewhere readin' a dictionary and soundin' words out!

Secondly, if you let your "ex" fuck up your current relationship, that's your fault. What were you doin' to make your ex feel as if it was ok to stalk you while in your new relationship? A person will only do what you allow them to do. Your man probably just feels like you needed a little time to handle the situation with your ex, and he didn't want any problems.

If I was you and there was no way possible I wanted my ex, and I wanted to make it work with my current man, then hell yeah, Imma do everything possible to make shit right with my man! If you been doin' your thing and it's not workin', then maybe you should've been holdin' out, waitin' and tryin'a make shit right instead of tryin'a be "single" if that's not what you really wanted.

If he say he needs time, give him time. If you want him, let him know just that. Don't rush him back into anything. If he wants you, trust me, he'll come back! Start out as "friends" and things will eventually pick up. But make sure things are definitely broke off with your ex! That way he won't get in the way again!


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