Sex & Gender

How Facebook Is Killing Your Chances of Finding Love

Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: How confusing online interaction for real-life love interest can leave you lonely.

A few years back, I was in a pretty bad place. My boyfriend at the time, who I had thought would love me forever, had recently dumped me, leaving me to become the original Taylor Swift -- minus the songwriting thing.

In the days before social media existed, you would get over breakups the good old-fashioned way: by stalking his friends at their place of work while threatening for details of his life for "closure" and listening to sad songs on repeat. It was that simple.

Today, we have a lot more access to people via social media, which makes breaking up, moving on, and creating genuine connections a lot harder. Why? How many of us have found ourselves believing that what our ex or crush posts on Facebook is truth? How many of us have obsessed over the "like" he handed his high school sweetheart (who is recently single, might I add?) when she posted a photo of her adorable pug?

See also:
- Three Great Places to Meet Singles (When the Bar Scene Gets Old)
- Dating in Miami: Six Things You're Doing All Wrong, According to Local Expert Nikki Novo

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Nikki Novo