Gay man seeks sex with a woman

Hello, Kitty: I have a major dilemma. I'm a gay male who's becoming curious about women. I have never been with a woman sexually. The problem is that I do not want to pay for sex because I'm not sure I will be able to go through with it. I've gone online to meet women, and some have been excited because it's my first time. But I've never met any of them. It's all talk and no action. Then again, I don't want to get into a relationship with a woman and then when the sex comes, find out I don't like it. So I'm stuck. Should I live my life without acting on this curiosity? What other options do I have? Please help me. Thank you.

Ghat Fisch


Hey, Ghat: Well, it depends on what you're curious about. Are you wondering how it would feel to date a woman or to shag one? People don't usually troll the Internet or contemplate seeing a prostitute for dinner and a movie, so since sex is what you seem to be after, I say go ahead. There are two things in life that everyone should try at least once: marijuana and sex with a woman. Weed for obvious painkilling, mind-elevating, giggle-inducing reasons. And sex with a woman because it has been known to start and stop wars, can make a rich man poor, and is the source of life. If you can get your hands on some powerful shit like that, it's a must that you take advantage. Of course, some people don't have the desire — but if you do, then do it. At least once.

Paying for it and ordering it online are two ways to put too much pressure on yourself. If you're curious, you already have a bit of desire, so just let nature take its course. Mingle with straight women, put aside your sexual orientation, and socialize with an open mind. The bottom line is you should put yourself in a situation where something could happen, preferably with someone who won't have the opportunity to judge you the next day. Plenty of women have stories about taking an eager guy home from a bar and then watching him become aloof and disinterested as soon as they disrobe. That could be you, darling. Just try it. And think, one day it might make a really great party story: "Yeah, I got one whiff, and the next thing I knew, I was curled up in the corner, crying and shaking." Just do it. Meow.

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