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Five Ways to Make Friends at a Fetish Party

No, it's OK. They're friends.

Sunday Submission, the coolest fetish party at South Beach's


, is only a ten days away.  We know most of you are aching with anticipation, especially those who are just breaking into this wonderful, yet dark world of BDSM.  If you're shy, but want to know exactly what goes down at a Fetish Party, then email askadomme@miaminewtimes.com. To make things more comfortable for fetish party virgins, we decided to

write up a few guidelines to help you make new kinky friends.

1. Get party people's attention as soon as you walk through the door.
This is quite easy. People in the fetish world are obsessed with extraordinary outfits. Think Grace Jones or James St. James, or even the greatest rip-off of all time--Lady Gaga. Put a shitload of crazy make-up on and just be your fabulous self. Appearance is very important. The crazier your outfit, the more people would pay attention to you.

2. Pester somebody until they notice you.
It's a fetish party, so take a shot of vodka to muster some courage and find a lonely freak like yourself, but make sure the person you're getting friendly with is quasi-sober.

3. Volunteer to be a lab rat.
There are usually lots of performances at fetish parties. Masters and mistresses love to show off their new tricks, so they are always on the look-out for volunteers. If a domme asks you to be her bottom for the evening, don't be shy and offer her your services. If the mistress fancies you, she will show you off to all of her friends. This is the best way for you to make friends.

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Dress to impress.
4. Act totally bat-shit crazy.

Kinksters love crazy and eccentric people. The crazier you are, the more they will love you. Loosen up and just have fun.

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5. Just say "Hello"
And here's the simplest way of all to make friends. Approach them and just introduce yourself. Be polite. They maybe sadistic and masochistic, and they may bite and pinch, but they're not mean people in a conventional sort of way. Come up and say "hello" and they'll welcome you with wide arms into their crazy, kinky community.

Sunday Submission is Sunday, September 19, at Rokbar (1905 Collins Ave., Miami Beach). Admission is free and the party starts at 11 p.m. Note: There will be a very strict dress code: i.e., no casual clothes. Think leather, latex, and vinyl. Tighten your corset and come rock. Call 305-674-4397 or visit rokbarmiami.com.

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