Schools Ignore Gay Bullying at Their Own Peril

Bottle-blond bangs swept over one eye — this, the other boys whispered, was not a man's haircut. One of them — a popular, handsome specimen — grew particularly incensed at his classmate's new look. He formed a posse and found a pair of scissors. After locating the blond boy, the gang tackled him. The boy screamed for help, but none came. Lock by lock, his hair was lopped off.

Soon after, the boy disappeared from school. Eventually, he returned, his hair clipped short and back to its natural brown color.

There was no disciplinary action, but the incident would forever haunt everyone involved, save for the lead attacker, Mitt Romney. He forgot about it, married a pretty girl, produced five handsome sons, and made hundreds of millions of dollars. Now he wants to be president.

Becky Collins (right) says her 15-year-old son Zach King (left) was attacked and beaten in a classroom because he is gay.
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Becky Collins (right) says her 15-year-old son Zach King (left) was attacked and beaten in a classroom because he is gay.
The suicide of Tammy Aaberg's (right) son Justin inspired Sen. Al Franken (center) to pen the federal Student Non-Discrimination Act.
Courtesy of Tammy Aaberg
The suicide of Tammy Aaberg's (right) son Justin inspired Sen. Al Franken (center) to pen the federal Student Non-Discrimination Act.

Gay kids have long been a target of bullying. Until recently, incidents could be laughed off as "pranks" and no one suffered any consequences, save for the gay kid. But in the last few years, that has begun to change.

Some say it started the night Tyler Clementi leapt from the George Washington Bridge. He'd just discovered that his roommate at Rutgers University had used a webcam to spy on a kiss he shared with another man. Police found Clementi's body seven days later.

Clementi wasn't the only gay kid to commit suicide that September — there were 10 in all. Asher Brown, a 13-year-old boy from Cypress, Texas, shot himself in the head with his stepfather's Beretta. Seth Walsh, 13, hung himself in his rural California backyard just a half-hour after his mother had rescued him from a gang of bullies.

"It is a totally unnecessary tragedy for my children," says Wendy Walsh, Seth's mother. "I don't know where all the hate comes from."

Now bullies everywhere are being held to account. Dharun Ravi, the roommate who spied on Clementi, was charged and found guilty of a hate crime — last week he was sentenced to 30 days in jail. The Department of Justice brought harsh sanctions down on Walsh's school district, and the local Legislature passed "Seth's Law," making it mandatory for schools to formally investigate bullying claims. News of 15-year-old Billy Lucas's suicide inspired the creation of the "It Gets Better" campaign, a viral video series designed to show gay kids there's a better life after graduation.

"That September woke a lot of older, grown-up LGBT members to the fact that while it had gotten so much better for us out in the world, there had been the inverse effect of upping the temperature for kids in school," says Dan Savage, the alternative-weekly sex columnist who started "It Gets Better." "I really do think it shifted the culture."

The world swooned earlier this month when President Obama gave gay marriage his personal blessing, but his administration's efforts to combat bullying may actually be his more valuable contribution. Under his direction, the Department of Justice has vigorously pursued schools all over the country for failing to protect gay kids. Obama also endorsed the Student Non-Discrimination Act, a bill introduced by Sen. Al Franken to make homosexuality a federally protected class.

"It gives them sort of the same civil rights as racial minorities got from the '64 Civil Rights Act, that women got from Title IX," says Franken. "I think more people are beginning to see this for what it is.... This is a group of people that just overwhelmingly are the victims of bullying and harassment."

When it comes to gay bullying, society seems to be experiencing something of a paradigm shift.

"I compare it to what happened in the South in the Civil Rights Movement," says Jamie Nabozny, the plaintiff in the country's first gay bullying case. "The fall of 2010 will be comparable to what happened in Selma."

Until recently, the only classroom conversation about homosexuality and kids was how to keep them separate. In the '70s, teachers were routinely fired for coming out of the closet. There was no such thing as a Gay-Straight Alliance club in school.

The arrival of AIDS in the '80s forced sex education programs to acknowledge the existence of homosexuality. That in turn triggered a righteous panic. In 1987, Republican Sen. Jesse Helms took to the Senate floor brandishing a Gay Men's Health Crisis comic as part of his successful bid to ban federal funding for AIDS education materials that "promote or encourage, directly or indirectly, homosexual activities."

Eight states still have language on the law books derived from Helms's "no homo promo" policy. In Texas, sex-ed classes are required to teach that homosexuality is "not an acceptable lifestyle and is a criminal offense." In Arizona, the law forbids schools from portraying homosexuality "as a positive alternative lifestyle."

"There was this fear that if you were talking about gay people, you were having inappropriate conversations with students about sex," says Kim Westheimer, director of the Human Rights Campaign Foundation's Welcoming Schools project.

The gay rights movement began to push back in the '90s. An openly gay teacher in Boston named Kevin Jennings founded the Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network to help educators who wanted to offer counsel to gay kids. In 1999, a judge affirmed that Gay-Straight Alliance clubs had a right to gather on school grounds.

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smash44
smash44

Oh shut up already with the Romney thing; at least he has some guts, unlike the coward that you white retards elected in 2008.

Tubbsdon
Tubbsdon

ALL children should be protected, Period. And, cubanogm, you are an idiot...

cubanogm
cubanogm

I think that all States should have laws prohibiting people from one race adopting babies from another race.It is proven by the adoptees that they always feel out of place and very incompetent.Black teenagers have testfied that they always felt out of place in their adopting white family.About the most succesful adoptions are of oriental kids by white families.There are not to many,if any,adoptions of black families adopting white kids.Kids should be adopted by families of the same race.Gays should be allowed to adopt gay kids.By his/hers ten or eleven years even sometimes before kids know that they are gay and they should be placed with a gay couple.They will feel more atuned with the family and there would be less friction.Heterosexual couples do not know how to react to gay kids.It is not their experience in life growing up.Blacks with blacks,whites with whites,gays with gays.Period.

Fernando Mineros
Fernando Mineros

this is so irrelevant and out of place I wonder why even take the time to write such a load of bull$hit...

chipowski
chipowski

Pure trash by Lussenhop and the fact that it is known to all that the family has said the story contains factual errors and that they are traumatized by its repeat, Lussenhop goes ahead and traumatizes the family again. The only bully I see is the arrogant Lussenhop who thinks she can write whatever she wants, true or not, regardless of the impact on the family. Typical liberal media hypocracy.

denpaul1
denpaul1

Thank GOD fot Texas and Arizona 48 more to go.Hey why didn't the rapper write this article it's right up his alley him coming out of the closet and all.

 
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